So, how did the last 365 days pan out for you? 2015 was an odd one for me. On the one hand, I’ve had some successes but at the same time, many frustrations.
If I step back though (and try not to have bitter feelings about the hard times), I’ve learnt lessons and have a lot to carry forward into the next chapter. I thought I’d share some of mine here for ya’ll, in the hope that something inspires, resonates or at least – makes you think!
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Accept that certain things are out of your control
Be it a ridiculous work situation, family aggro or a friend who just won’t get out of that toxic relationship (gaaahhh!), learn to live and let live.
In the past, I’ve spent far too much time thinking and worrying myself into knots about other people’s lives, or trying to understand why someone is acting in a certain way, or trying to help solve others’ problems – while forgetting to work on fixing my own.
News flash: just absorb and accept the fact that not everyone is going to think like you, or act how you want them to act in your ideal world. Now I’m trying to make that mindset a habit – even though it’s hard to let certain things go – it’s starting to make a difference. Which leads me onto…
Drop the ego
Worked your backside off for some sort of recognition – like a promotion at work – and still being overlooked? Ask yourself, why are you really pushing yourself in the first place? Is your goal just that bigger pay check? More followers on your social media accounts?
I spent a lot of time the past few years working like a dog – passionate about my job, yes – but focusing too much on injustices along the way (all of them out of my control) and letting them consume me. I’m not saying you shouldn’t have self-esteem, it’s just…the thing is, the world doesn’t owe you anything. Get over any feelings of entitlement now, or you’ll really struggle to deal with all the rejections life is going to throw at you.
But…believe in yourself.
If you’re continually working for and judging yourself by other peoples’ opinions of you – stop it right now, because that, my virtual friend, is toxic. A few times this year, in work and in my personal life, I’ve had to stop and check in on myself and my feelings – why am I getting so het up about others comments and letting them affect my mood and outlook? Nonsense.
Ultimately, you don’t need anyone else’s approval but your own to do what you do, or what makes you happy, and at the end of the day, if you’re content with your life, direction and your contribution to the world, that is ultimately what matters. You are your own judge.
Focus on the small triumphs too. If a feature I’ve written helps someone, or makes one person pick up their phone to drop me a whatsapp note about it, then that’s my day made.
Finally, carry on continuing your hard work, because at the end of the day that is what will take you places.
Wishing you all the best for 2016!